It's Me Again!
Hi everyone, have you missed me? It has been 11 days since I last posted. Wow, way to stick to that New Year's goal of a post a day, huh? Well, I broke that day two or three I think but I have been trying to post every few days at least. I could tell from all the emails and comments I got on the website that I was missed terribly, lol. No, not funny, I still really, really want your comments to know that this is making a difference, so if nothing else, type MAD and your name if you don't have time, energy or the desire to write anything else! Just want to know I am mad - get it, Making A Difference, lol !
Well, anyway, I do have a good reason for my absence. My husband has been going through a hard time himself health wise and I have been so busy helping him & also taking on a majority of the tasks that he did with the kids while maintaining my own responsibilities. It has been downright insane. But it has also helped me appreciate all that my husband does to help me day to day that I take for granted. For a majority of our relationship, I did most of the running of the household while continuously climbing the corporate ladder and taking on more and more responsibilities while my salary grew. When I was diagnosed with lupus, I was out of work on disability within 3 - 4 weeks. It was never considered that I could maintain my job by me or my superiors, the job was just way too stressful. That is when my husband and I both had to relearn who I was, not being corporate, successful me. But I still did my best to stay on top of household work, which was still a huge responsibility for me that through the years has become more and more daunting. My life is filled with late fees, rushing to do things at the last minute because they are misplaced or forgotten, stressing over the slightest things like scheduling a doctor's appointment or any other of the 2 - 3 specialist appointments I need to schedule and attend per month. Since I was put on bed rest 6 weeks into my last pregnancy, my household management skills went from fair at best to poor and have never returned. Before this summer began, I told my husband that I could not handle our 2 boys on my own full time all summer so he left his low paying job and started up a business of his own. It has been working well and without his help, I don't know how I would make it through the last year.
But since he has been so sick, I have been reflecting on how much I expect his help now and I am not as appreciative as I should be. Just like I expect him to be appreciative of what I do in the house. I have been totally taking him for granted, I realized. So I talked to him about it the other day and told him how much I loved him and appreciated how much he helps me. I really would not get through some days if I didn't have him home with me. I know we are so blessed that his home business is doing well enough to let us continue like this. I don't know how I would manage if he had a 9 to 5 job leaving at 8 and returning at 6.
So all in all even though it has been tough going these past 2 weeks with my husband so sick, I think it has helped open my eyes to all that he does to help me. And I think he appreciated me more too and all I did to help aid him while he was ill.
But now I am back & I will try to post a couple of times a day starting soon to make up for how long I was gone. But I want to HEAR from you...am I mad??? lol
Sweet Dreams
xoxo
Lupus Celebrity
Well, anyway, I do have a good reason for my absence. My husband has been going through a hard time himself health wise and I have been so busy helping him & also taking on a majority of the tasks that he did with the kids while maintaining my own responsibilities. It has been downright insane. But it has also helped me appreciate all that my husband does to help me day to day that I take for granted. For a majority of our relationship, I did most of the running of the household while continuously climbing the corporate ladder and taking on more and more responsibilities while my salary grew. When I was diagnosed with lupus, I was out of work on disability within 3 - 4 weeks. It was never considered that I could maintain my job by me or my superiors, the job was just way too stressful. That is when my husband and I both had to relearn who I was, not being corporate, successful me. But I still did my best to stay on top of household work, which was still a huge responsibility for me that through the years has become more and more daunting. My life is filled with late fees, rushing to do things at the last minute because they are misplaced or forgotten, stressing over the slightest things like scheduling a doctor's appointment or any other of the 2 - 3 specialist appointments I need to schedule and attend per month. Since I was put on bed rest 6 weeks into my last pregnancy, my household management skills went from fair at best to poor and have never returned. Before this summer began, I told my husband that I could not handle our 2 boys on my own full time all summer so he left his low paying job and started up a business of his own. It has been working well and without his help, I don't know how I would make it through the last year.
But since he has been so sick, I have been reflecting on how much I expect his help now and I am not as appreciative as I should be. Just like I expect him to be appreciative of what I do in the house. I have been totally taking him for granted, I realized. So I talked to him about it the other day and told him how much I loved him and appreciated how much he helps me. I really would not get through some days if I didn't have him home with me. I know we are so blessed that his home business is doing well enough to let us continue like this. I don't know how I would manage if he had a 9 to 5 job leaving at 8 and returning at 6.
So all in all even though it has been tough going these past 2 weeks with my husband so sick, I think it has helped open my eyes to all that he does to help me. And I think he appreciated me more too and all I did to help aid him while he was ill.
But now I am back & I will try to post a couple of times a day starting soon to make up for how long I was gone. But I want to HEAR from you...am I mad??? lol
Sweet Dreams
xoxo
Lupus Celebrity
Posted by lupuscelebrity at 3/6/2010 11:01 PM 
Categories: disability
Tags: overwhelmed sick husband taking for granted Lupus. SLE disability household management skills appreciation of husband New Years Resolution corporate ladder
Categories: disability
Tags: overwhelmed sick husband taking for granted Lupus. SLE disability household management skills appreciation of husband New Years Resolution corporate ladder
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